Stop! Calm Down! Think

The more tranquil a man becomes, the
greater is his success,
his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind
is one of the beautiful
jewels of wisdom. --James Allen

stop! calm down! think.

This one really works for me.

When I am very angry I tend to keep quiet. Stay in one corner and let my anger calm down. Think how to express what I really what to say in order to address such situation.

Minsan nga lang nakaka suffocate. Hindi rin naman kasi pwedeng sa lahat ng oras ay magagawa mong magtimpi. Ika nga, depende pa rin sa sitwasyon.

Husband and I usually talk about any problem if the anger is over. Hindi namin sinasalubong ang init ng ulo ng isa’t isa kaya ever since na naging kami (from girlfriend-boyfriend hanggang ngayon na mag-asawa na kami) ay hindi pa naman kami nagkakaroon ng matinding pag aaway hanggang tampuhan lang na madalas na hindi rin naman nagtatagal.

Sa bahay kapag medyo may hindi magandang ginawa ang yaya ni baby. I always try my best to say it in a nice way and calmly. Tumanim kasi sa aking isipan ang isa sa mga ikinukwento ng aking tiyahin na syang naging unang yaya ni K.A. Sabi nya yong yaya daw ng anak ng isa nyang dating katrabaho e nagmamaltrato ng bata once na nakalis na yong nanay. Ang katwiran daw ng nasabing yaya eh masyado daw masama ang ugali ng nanay ng bata kaya sa bata sya gumaganti. Which is hindi naman tama, right? Kaya yan ang isa sa mga ayaw kung mangyari sa aking baby while she is left alone in her yaya. Dahil kapag nagkataon hindi ko rin alam kung ano ang pwede kong magawa o ng husband ko sa yaya kapag nalaman naming minaltrato ang aming unica hija.

Another instance, last time na nakipag usap kami sa seller ng lupa sa province. Masyado syang magulang, akala nya kasi makakaisa sya. Nagdedemand na sya ng full payment pero ayaw nya pang pirmahan ang deed of sale. Ang usapan installment basis and full payment upon the release of the title. Eh medyo uminit na ang ulo ko that time kasi nga papaanong uusad ang pagpapa transfer ng title eh ayaw nga nya magsign sa deed of sale. But then I really have to stay calm otherwise walang mangyayari, I mean hindi ko makukuha ang gusto ko. Finally, after very long hours of negotiation napapayag ko rin syang mag sign.

Sa office nga lang iba, mas madalas na you only have to STOP and keep quiet! Otherwise malaki ang chance na pag initan ka ng mga officemates or ng boss mo at ang masama baka mawalan ka pa ng trabaho. Sigh….

How about you? Does it work for you? O sugod ka lang ng sugod?

picture from ciccparenting.org

lazy thursday

hay!!!! antagal naman ng 5:00 pm.

what a lazy thursday feeling!

kahit magbukas ng email ay kinatatamaran ko ata ngayong araw na ito.

so far, wala pa akong gaanong naaaccomplish sa araw na ito. pero parang gusto ko ng umuwi at makipaglaro nalang sa baby ko. im very much sure hindi ako kailanman tatamaran makipaglaro sa kanya.

bukas, irerelease na kasi ang visa ng mga participants na pupunta ng amsterdam. ika nga, judgement day na bukas kung sino lang ang papayagan makasama sa kanila sa june 1.

siguro isa ito sa mga dahilan kung bakit ako matamlay sa work ngayong araw. i have a feeling kasi na hindi sila lahat makakaalis. which means hindi totally successful ang assistance ko sa kanilang lahat. but who knows.....

anyway, i want to sign off early..... bye for now! hope you guys are not feeling lazy like me today.

sad memories

Is it over, are you really over her

Is it over, or will you take her back again

If it's over you can let her memory in

Come on over, we'll let our love begin.

You say you can't count the times that she's hurt you

And she's hurt you for the last time

Now you say I'm the one that you're needing

But is the need in your heart or just in your mind.

Is it over, are you really over her

Is it over, or will you take her back again

If it's over you can let her memory in

Come on over, we'll let our love begin.

You know that I'm yours for the asking

If you're really asking, for true love

Words can't express how I want you

Oh, how I want to believe you're giving her up.

But is it over are you really over her

Is it over or will you take her back again

If it's over you can let her memory in

Come on over we'll let our love begin.

Is it over, come on over let our love begin.

Is it over...

Everytime i hear this song, i feel sad. sometimes, it makes me cry.

Jaya sang it very well but it reminds me the days that i caught my husband still texting & calling his ex-girlfriend way back early 2006 just a few months after we got marriage.

not a funny joke!!!

kagabi napanood ko sa TV patrol ang news about a german couple who try to sell their baby on ebay.


and it is in Inquirer.Net today (http://newsinfo.inquirer.net/breakingnews/infotech/view/20080525-138758/German-couple-try-to-sell-baby-on-Ebay--police)



grabe! hindi ko maatim bakit may mga ganitong klase ng magulang.



kahit gaano kahirap ang buhay para sa akin hindi pa rin tama na ipagbili o kahit na sabi ng mga parents nya na its only a joke! hindi sya nakakatuwa!



isang munting anghel... isang walang kaalam alam na sanggol ang ibebenta mo lang matapos mo paghirapang dalhin ng siyam na buwan sa sinapupunan.

wow...

amazing!!!

still talking about home.

medyo ninanamnam ko pa ang aking blog about my soon-to-be-new home. LOL.

and today i saw it in yahoo - "America's Most Expensive Homes"( http://finance.yahoo.com/real-estate/article/105135/America)

grabe! as in grabe! namangha ako kasi wala sa kalingkingan ang aking ipinagmamalaking bahay.

pwede kayang makitira nalang ako sa kahit alin sa tatlong ito. hehehe.

soon to be our new home

I just want to share our soon to be new home.

Last year, I signed an application form for a housing loan in Pag-Ibig Fund through the property developer named Verdantpoint Corporation.

The property is situated in Rodriquez, Rizal. Medyo malayo sa present work ko coz I am currently working in Ortigas Center. Pero it is better naman to have this one kaysa magrent lang kami ng magrent. This property is on a rent to own scheme payable over the period of 30 years.

The house is only 25 square meter but the entire lot area is 63 square meter. Medyo maliit lang yong property pero tama lang din naman sa amin na medyo limited lang din in financial aspect & besides we are just starting our own family.

The developer told me that before the year ends ay matatake out na rin ang aking loan.

Yeheey… excited na ako sa aming magiging sariling bahay. With God’s grace sana matake out agad.

picture from the verdantpoint website

forwarded email

An officemate forwarded an email to me and instructed me to send this to four people that I wanted God to bless.

But since im not pond of forwarding forwarded emails, I rather choose to post it here in my blog.

The email goes like this:

Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.S.A.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way.

*************

There's work to do, deadlines to
meet;
You've got no time to spare,
But as you hurry and scurry-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER


In the midst of family chaos,
"Quality time" is rare.
Do your best; let God do the rest-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.


It may seem like your worries
Are more than you can bear.
Slow down and take a breather-
ASAP - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER


God knows how stressful life is;
He wants to ease our cares,
And He'll respond to all your needs
A.S.A.P. - ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.

****************

God bless and have a wonderful day! Of all creation and God!regards,

bus scenes

Last Tuesday, May 20, 5:30 in the afternoon sumakay ako ng bus from Megamall to Kamias. Samu’t saring scenes ang aking nasaksihan:

First scene: In front of MRT Ortigas station, since Ortigas flyover ang sign board nila. Nagsisisigaw na yong bus conductor, “ yong bababa ng Ortigas/Robinson dyan lumapit na at flyover po tayo”. Bago umakyat ng flyover, huminto ang bus at may isang aleng bumaba. Muntik na sya mahagip ng isang bus on the right lane. Pero parang wala lang sa driver & conductor. Sigh.

Sumara ang pinto at may isang ale from the back ang pumunta sa bandang gitna at:

Ale: hindi na ba pwedeng bumaba?”
Conductor: hindi na po, don nalang
kayo sa may white plains.
Ale: e ang bilis-bilis nyo naman kasi. Doon
nalang ako sa Cubao

Second scene: Sa tapat ng Aguinaldo. Biglang may isang ale (a matrona look lady) na naman from the back nagagalit at nagmumura:

Ale: P*****-**a mo, para kang hindi lalaki.
Bakla ka! Ang laki-laki mong tao ayaw mo magpadaan. Para kang
walang pinag-aralan.

Lalaki: hindi umimik. Parang nagulat din sa sya reaction ng
ale.

Yong ale lumipat ng upo sa may banding gitna. Pero nagsisigaw pa rin sya:

Ale: yong mama dyan sa likod na naka t-shirt ng green. BAKLA!

Pagdating sa tapat ng makro Cubao, huminto ang bus. Tumayo ang ale at lumingon sa likod kung saan nakaupo yong mamang tinatalakan nya at bigla na naman sumigaw:

Ale: yong mama dyan sa likod na nakagreen at may salamin, letse ka!!!! BAKLA!
BAKLA! BAKLA!

Tapos bumaba na sya. Pagdating sa baba sinisilip pa rin nya ung mama.

Napangiti nalang tuloy ako. Hindi ko kasi malaman bakit ganun na lang yong galit nya. Sigh… naisip ko tuloy, pano kaya kung ganung klase ng tao ang maging byenan mo. Hehehehe…. Imperyo ang buhay.

Third scene: Pagbungad ng P. Tuazon, sa tapat ng isang gasoline station. BLAGGGGG…. Biglang nagpreno ang bus driver kala namin meron na syang nabangga. Buti wala nman pa. Sadyang bigla lang sya nagpreno.

Fourth scene: Tumawid ng P. Tuazon. CRACKKKK!!! Nasagi ng bus na sinasakyan ko ang side mirror ng isang bus in the left lane. Sigh.. munti na magkainitan ang dalawang driver.

Fifth scene: Tapat ng farmers plaza, gumigiwang giwang yong bus. Hindi nya malaman kung papasok ba sya ng Cubao ibabaw or mag express lane. Badtrip talaga!

Finally, umibabaw din. Babaan na yong ibang pasahero. Yong iba doon talaga ang way yong iba bumaba nalang dahil masyadong reckless ang driver.

Tapos, biglang may sumakay, tatlo silang magkakasama. Nauna babae may bitbit na isang malaking sakong bag, sumunod yong kasama nyang lalaki may isang back pack, din yong isa pang babae may bitbit na dalawang plastic bag. Nakabuntot sa kanila ung conductor habang bitbit ang kanilang dalang electric fan. Bandang gitna ng bus nairita ung conductor, “ mama bakit ba kasi hindi mo bitbtin itong electric fan?” sabay bigay nya yong kanyang bitbit.

Sixth scene: Tapat ng baliwag transit, nahuli ng MMDA yong bus driver at knuha ang driver’s license. Bumaba ang conductor at kinausap ung MMDA. Pag-akyat ng conductor:

Driver: Bakit daw?
Conductor: Dapat daw nasa loob ka ng yellow
lane?
Driver: Binayaran mo? Yong license ko?
Conductor: OO! Ayan na
yong ticket.

Seventh scene: Lapit na sa Kamias. Since daming bababa. Tumayo na kami at ng makababa na agad. Itong driver naman alang concern sa mga pasahero nya pa ekis ekis pa kung magpatakbo. Kaya halos magkadasubsob na kami.

Pagbaba ko ng bus kinuha ko yong plate number PYJ 825, Mersan bus. Napailing nalang ako at sinabi sa sarili kong iiwasan ko ng sumakay ng mersan bus para iwas disgrasya.

At paglipat ko ng jeep papuntang bahay, naisip ko, maisulat nga sa blog. Kaya lang ang worry ko pano ko kaya ito masusulat ng maayos? hehehe

wifely steps journal contest

a friend of mine actually encouraged me to have a blog.

but since im not a good writer, i am more into bloghopping.

last month i came across with wifely steps blog. since then i became her avid fan. i always visit her blog everytime i go online.

now that she is holding a contest to celebrate her 5th year wedding anniversary to H, i will definitely join.

Here are the rules:

1. Write about your favorite Wifely Steps entry in your blog. (If you don’t have a blog, why not create one now? )

2. Link back to wifelysteps

3. Leave a comment in this entry, leading to your post.

one of my favorite post was the "there is no love in laundry". i can relate to this post actually. because whenever i am engrossed in something i tend to forget that interaction with my hubby & baby matters more. after i read this post, i try to give attention first to my hubby & baby before doing anything else.

if you are looking for a good reads, come join me and let's visit wifelysteps . promise you won't regret it.

very nice art work

at last, nakakuha na rin ako ng copy ng pictures don sa birthday party na napuntahan namin last may 3. (related to my post last may 4 titled "innocent idea")

but since ala akong permission to post any person involved eh ung magagandang decors na lang ang i shahare ko today.

sick but still working

It is a very tough week for me.

With all the administrative things to arrange for the upcoming travel to Amsterdam by our partners. Plus all the personal matters that bothered me a lot, now I really feel tired & weak.

Flu hits me on Wednesday but I just ignore it and go on with my daily work hoping that I can finish everything on Thursday. But to my dismay, two delegates still did not pass the requirements we need in processing their insurance & visa. Sigh…..

So, here comes Friday. I still have to go to the office and fix things for them.

The fever really makes my body weak. I feel the heat coming out in my eyes. Yet, I don’t have the right to stay home and rest. Otherwise, they will not be able to leave on the first week of June.

The only consolation I have now is the support and care that my husband gives.

picture from www.miserlymoms.com

parting time

Today, K.A.’s yaya is scheduled to leave us. A month ago, she said she wants to take a vacation in our province. But she did not assure us that she will come back. She let us look for another yaya while she is away.

After 11 months of her stay to us, I really felt sad that now she will leave us. It is very hard because I know that this afternoon when I came home, she is no longer there.

We will surely miss her.

She is my auntie but I treated her like as my own mom. My daughter will surely look for her present too.

I am very confident when my daughter is left with her while H & I are away from home almost 10 hours a day, five days a week.

But now that she is leaving us I feel paranoid. I feel really uneasy today. With so many deadlines today, I do not know if I can accomplished it right,

My daughter will be at home accompanied only by her new yaya. I do not know if she will be feed at the right time, changed clothes when she is sweat and taking care of properly on her other needs.

I really don’t know. For now, I just hope and pray that everything will be fine.

im tired

hay, Wednesday pa lang but i felt so tired.

so many problems to solve...

so many things to fix...

so many people to deal with... ang gulo pa nilang kausap.

so many deadlines to meet and so many callers na makulit...

minsan tuloy naiisip ko bakit nga ba hindi balanse ang distribution ng work sa opisinang ito... minsan kapag may work ang dami-dami, kapag wala naman project as in maghapon ka na lang magkukunwaring busy...

for now, pwede bang magrelax muna and post a blog. baka naman mabaliw ako kung masyado kong seseryusin ang ganitong sitwasyon.

pix from www.heitmuller.com.

ME...

Here’s more about ME.

I AM… a government employee in the morning and a wife & a mother at night

I WANT… a lot of things

I HAVE… a very lovable & cute baby

I WISH… to have a lot of money soon

I FEAR… of losing any of my loveones

I SEARCH… for my purpose in life....

I WONDER… where will i be 10 years from now?

I REGRET… not trying to get a license (sana CPA na ako ngayon!)

I LOVE… loving my husband & my baby and being loved by them!!!

I ALWAYS… pray for guidance

I AM NOT… a perfect person

I DANCE… sorry i don't know how to dance! Pareho kaliwa ang paa ko.

I SING… kapag nagpapatulog lang sa baby ko.

I WRITE… my grocery list every payday so i won't forget to buy anything while i'm in the store

I WON… nothing lately (sana sa lotto soon)

I AM CONFUSED… about something (secret!!!)

I NEED… to relax and enjoy my life to the fullest

THE LAST THOUGHT BEFORE I GO TO SLEEP WITH IS… hay..another day behind...ano na naman kaya mangyayari bkas...

INNOCENT idea....

last saturday, we attended a birthday party somewhere in Las Piñas.

isang magarbong party. kahit ako napawow pagdating nmin sa area. sabi ko sa sarili makikita mo talaga kapag mayaman ang isang pamilya.

well, masaya naman yong party - andaming handa and marami din namang guests. Yon nga lang hindi nakipag cooperate ang weather kasi bigla bumuhos ang malakas na ulan kung kelan pa man din nagsimula ang kainan.

so dahil umulan eh nagsiksikan kami doon sa covered area. sobrang alinsangan dahil sa andami namin. and dahil sa kasama ko ang baby ko naghanap ako ng pwesto na medyo may masasagap naman kaming hangin.

tapos, doon sa sulok kung saan kami pumuwesto meron akong dalawang batang naririnig na nag uusap. Partly ganito ang narinig kong pinag uusapan nila:

B1: oy, ang ganda ng party nila noh! mahal siguro ginastos nila dito. siguro 1 million

ginastos nila dito, ano?

B2: siguro nga.

Hehehe. Naaliw ako sa dalawang batang un. Naisip ko tuloy, napaka inosente pa nga ng mga batang ito. One Million para sa 1st birthday party......

What Blue Rose Means

You are full of energy.
You are spirited and boisterous.
You are bold and daring.
You are willing to do some pretty outrageous things.
Your high energy sometimes gets you in trouble.
You can have a pretty bad temper at times.

You are relaxed, chill, and very likely to go with the flow.
You are light hearted and accepting.
You don't get worked up easily.
Well adjusted and incredibly happy, many people wonder what your secret to life is.

You are a very lucky person.
Things just always seem to go your way.
And because you're so lucky, you don't really have a lot of worries.
You just hope for the best in life.
You're sometimes a little guilty of being greedy.
Spread your luck around a little to people who need it.

You are friendly, charming, and warm.
You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat.
Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible.
But for the important things, you pull it together.

You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel.
You're always up to something.
You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you.
You're very intense.
You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble.
But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.

You are well rounded, with a complete perspective on life.
You are solid and dependable.
You are loyal, and people can count on you.
At times, you can be a bit too serious.
You tend to put too much pressure on yourself.

You are the total package - suave, sexy, smart, and strong.
You have the whole world under your spell, and you can influence almost everyone you know.
You don't always resist your urges to crush the weak.
Just remember, they don't have as much going for them as you do.

Source: blogthings.com

What's My Name's Hidden Meaning?

According to blogthings.com my real name means:

... i am friendly, charming, and warm.

... i get along with almost everyone.

... i work hard not to rock the boat.

... my easy going attitude brings people together.

... At times, i can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, i pull it together.

... i am balanced, orderly, and organized.

... i like my ducks in a row.

... i am powerful and competent, especially in the workplace.

... People can see me as stubborn and headstrong.

... i definitely have a dominant personality.

... i am very intuitive and wise.

... i understand the world better than most people.

... i also have a very active imagination.

... i often get carried away with my thoughts.

... i am prone to a little paranoia and jealousy.

... i sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.